There was a truck. It became wedged under an overpass. The driver got out and tried to figure what to do. Soon an engineer stopped, and she too attempted to solve the puzzle. If they tried to move the truck backward, the entire bridge looked like it would crumble. Before too long, many people gathered trying to figure out how to raise the bridge. A few hours passed when a young boy walked by sucking on a lollipop.
He walked over to where the commotion was and saw all of the adults gathered. Then suggested a simple solution. “Why not take enough air out of the tires to lower the truck but leave enough to let it keep rolling,” he said matter-of-factly. They were stunned at the child's astute observation and looked at him in amazement. He smiled and went back on his way.
Sometimes we make things much more difficult than they appear, or for the matter, should ever be. In our diabetes world problems come up all the time and to be honest with you— having been at this for over 25 years with two kids living with the disease—I really have not seen any one thing that I would consider completely unique. Someone has gone or is going, through what you may view as an absolute mountain that can never be scaled.
Noting is really ever completely new. Ask.
I love when I see parents facing a problem with their child who is participating in sports. there's so much concern over what to do with the pump, the blood sugars, what to eat plus a whole long list of disasters just waiting to happen.
I love that they are allowing their child to be engaged in the dilemma. This is hugely helpful in the development of their child and also fosters a good relationship within the family. Having something in common OTHER than diabetes-nagging is a good thing. They show up on Facebook and lob a question out there. And within minutes experienced parents send back a mountain of advice.
What worked? What didn’t work? What to use? In essence...WHAT TO DO.
DO NOT stop your child from doing ANYTHING he or she wants to ‘because’ of having diabetes. People NO DIFFERENT than your child have climbed mountains, played professional sports, acted in the school play, and lived their life to the absolute fullest. Someone asked me once if there is anything I would deny my child because of her diabetes and my answer was...nothing. And we never have.
Adjust? Perhaps. Feel nervous? You bet’cha. But throughout the growing up years, we felt that if our child had the willingness to do something, to try something, together we could figure out a way to make it work. SOMEHOW make it work. Admittedly, sometimes it would take more work than we'd anticipated but the challenge before us today is the victory tomorrow. If they could do it without diabetes, they can do it with diabetes. Period.
So, the next time you run up against an obstacle, know that there is an entire community just waiting and ready to help you through it. And help you and your child through it successfully. All you have to do is ask.
Having diabetes is bad enough. Stopping our children should just never be an option. Of course, some days will be really bad, but some days are really bad even if they did not have diabetes. And some days are magic.
No game can be enjoyed sitting on the sideline. So get in the game. Let the air out and roll, and that message is to you, as parents.
I am a DiabetesDad.