The occasional poking didn’t change her wanting to be with me, but she felt that it did ruin the mood from time to time. She gave an example; during foreplay she felt that it got in the way: Disturbed the natural flow of being intimate with each other. Her two biggest complaints, “I worry about accidently ripping it out of your body and about breaking the pump.” She said that it was causing her not to be spontaneous and overthink her movement over fear that she will accidently hurt me. I have had female followers on my Facebook Page “The Diabetic Diary” express similar issues with their boyfriends.
Our conversation happened prior to me finding a solution to this problem. Back then, I had to rely on good communication skills. I told her that, “if any of those things happened it wouldn’t be a big deal. I have plenty of backup equipment.” Luckily, that worked and by having open communication around my diabetes made our relationship stronger. Good communication skills do help in all relationships.
However, when living with an illness that requires so much work, anything that helps reduce issues like this, may even reduce diabetes burnout. I always kept an eye out for anything that could help improve my life with diabetes. Over time, I have discovered many little tricks, on my own, from my followers and even my clients.
Eventually, I came across something that helped immensely. If you read my previous blog "Sex, Pumps and Underwear," you know pocketed underwear has improved my life. Since then I got reports back that they have helped some of my Facebook followers lives, greatly. Some women have reached out and asked if they made underwear for women? As luck would have it, they do make underwear with pockets for women.
The two front pockets are perfectly placed toward the inner thigh making them undetectable so much so that you even forget you are wearing a pump. The underwear and undies resolve other issues like:
For women and crossdressers alike:
Some of my female clients and online followers have used them when wearing a strapless dress with great success.
There may be a few on the market but if interested in the undies or boxer briefs I liked, you can check out the offerings at the Clever Travel Companion. Getting the next size up allows room for the pump with comfort. (Sand Not Included).
Eliot LeBow, LCSW, CDE, is a diabetes-focused psychotherapist, diabetes-coach, presenter, and writer. His private practice is located in New York City and is also available via Skype. LeBow, who has been living with type 1 diabetes since 1977, treats the many diverse cognitive, behavioral, and emotional needs of people living with type 1 and type 2 diabetes.